We received a letter from 24-year-old Frannie, who recently got married. But instead of enjoying her first months of marriage, she’s facing constant interference from a controlling mother-in-law who inserts herself into the young couple’s life at every opportunity, whether welcome or not.
This is Frannie’s letter:
- Mmm, did you marry him because he lets you have your own way? Ever considered that you and your MIL are the same, you both want to do things Your way, regardless of what your husband wants? Don’t think the problem is your husband not sticking up for you, but more a case of you and MIL both want to be the controlling person. He’s just a ‘yes man’ stuck in the middle. Unfortunately, right now, his mother scares him more than you do, so his allegiance to her is strongest. If you can’t work with this, divorce is an obvious option. © Patricia Flanagan / Facebook
- Talk to your husband, you will accept your MIL’s offer as long as she gives you peace. © Sonia Villa / Facebook
- Your MIL will not change either will your husband, she has him under her control it will not get better. Accept the situation or run. © Aida Mahran / Facebook
- It’s strange that you didn’t notice your MIL’s true nature before the wedding. She’s unlikely to calm down, and handling this on your own won’t be easy. You need to get your husband on your side—try talking to him about it, or consider seeing a therapist together. But if he continues to be a mama’s boy, your only option might be to divorce him and live in peace. © Lucy Hems / Facebook
- You certainly know the answer to your question: RUN NOW to a lawyer! © Mary Bloch / Facebook
What would we advise Frannie?
Here’s another story from a woman who faced unacceptable behavior from her mother-in-law and decided not to put up with it.